Archive | November, 2010

Title Change…

30 Nov

I’ve decided that I’m going to start campaigning to have my title changed at work.  Currently, my title reads as Treasury Junior Accountant.  Boring.  Part of my job is to maintain all of the bonds for our company.  Well I’m a girl and I work with bonds.  How about Bond Girl?  Much cooler.  And this could be the background for my new business card…    

If my boss says no, well then he can kiss my ass.  He obviously doesn’t know what cool is…

Single

5 Nov

I was bbm-ing with one of my good friends the other day, who happens to be 26 and single.  She started telling me this story about how she had a meeting with some man at work and he started asking her personal questions.  He asked her if she was married?  She said no.  Serious relationship?  Again, she replied no.  He then said “Well, if you join a dating website right now, then you still have time to meet someone, fall in love and have kids before it’s too late.”

Wow.  Ok, before what is too late??  She’s not 89 years old and on her death-bed.  She’s 26 and still very young.  She has plenty of time to have children and get married.  This subject annoys me because I’m single too and I can totally relate to this conversation.  I hear comments like this all the time.

It’s like if you’re over 25 and single, your world is coming to an end.  When people find out you’re single, they look at you with that pitiful face like they just found a lost puppy and you get that “Awwww, don’t worry…you’ll find someone.”  OK, well first of all I didn’t say that I was worried, I said I was single.  And secondly, you don’t need to “awwww” me because I’m not a lost puppy.  I’m single and you know what, that’s OK!!!

I don’t get why being single has turned into such a bad thing.  Personally for me, and for the few single girls that I know, it’s a good thing that we’re single.  We’ve come from past relationships that weren’t healthy for us and obviously didn’t work out for many reasons.  Now is it really that bad that we’re single??  Or should we have stayed in these crappy situations just so we don’t have to check the single status box??  I would like to think it’s better off for people to be alone than to be in an unhappy relationship.

Now I’m not saying that I want to be single forever.  Of course I want to find a great guy and fall in love and be in a committed relationship.  But I’m kind of getting sick of people acting like it’s sad and pathetic to be alone.   Or that we’re “running out of time”.

Why does relationship status even need to come up in conversation??  Unless you’re one of my good friends, it’s really none of your business.  Yet, it seems to be a staple question in every conversation lately.  Can’t we talk about something else??  I can honestly say that I don’t ask people for that personal information.  If they want to tell me about their relationships, marriages or single life on their own terms, that’s great.  But I definitely don’t pry.  Maybe it’s because I don’t like getting asked, so I refrain from doing it myself.  I hate when someone asks me that burning question and they respond with WHY when they hear my answer.  Ummm I’d rather not get into the reasons of why I’m single with you, especially when I’m just trying to heat up my lunch at work.  How about we just skip over to the next topic. Look, all I know is that I’m getting close to 30, I’m single and I’m actually happy.  I don’t wake up every day thinking that I have a terrible life because I’m not with someone.  I haven’t made it my lifetime goal to find a man just because according to some people, not being married with child by the age of 30, means your life is pretty much over.  I know that I’m not going to be single forever and eventually, whether it’s sooner or later, I will meet someone.  And when the right guy comes along, it will be great.  But until that happens, spare me the pity party.  I’m not dying, I’m just single.

 

Maybe if I stare at my phone long enough, it will magically ring??

4 Nov

I can’t help but feel super bummed right now and extremely frustrated.  Last week, I felt like I was in the greatest mood and this week, it’s been shit.  It’s like I’ve heard, or in this case, not heard shitty news all week.

A few weeks ago, I applied for this job that I really, really wanted.  I was called in for an interview and I nailed it.  The Human Resources manager that I met with loved me.  She told me that she thought I was terrific.  She said that I had a lot of potential and that she could see me going really far with this company, even into management.  Needless to say, I was thrilled.  There was one slight problem though.  I have my Hawaii trip coming up at Christmas and this time of year is a blackout period for them.  I knew going into the interview that this would pose a problem but the H.R. Manager said that she would take it to upper management and see what she could do.

A week passes by and I get a phone call from her.  She tells me that she was able to get my holidays approved and because of the growth that they could see in my future and how motivated I was to work for this company, they would make this exception.  Then she says she needs me to meet with another manager for a final interview.  But for me not to worry, because it’s not really an interview and that this is more of a “meet and greet” with who would be my direct management.  She also says that this manager is totally aware of my holidays and not to worry about bringing that up because it’s all good. 

So I go and meet with this other manager, and it’s a full on formal interview with 4 pages of questions.  Questions that I had already answered in the first interview but whatever.  Then she starts asking me if I plan to take any holidays at Christmas.  I tell her about my planned trip and then say that the first girl told me that she had let this girl know.  She says she sort of remembers something about this but has it all wrong.  Thinks that I’ll be away for like 2 days when I’m gone for 2 weeks.  Then she starts talking about some group interview.  I tell her that I don’t know what she’s talking about and she says “so how did you get an interview?”  I tell her that I handed in a resume and the H.R. Manager called me.  She says “Oh, so you had a one on one?”  I say yes and she looks at me with the most confused face ever.  She had no idea who I was or what the hell was going on.  She was so unprepared for this interview that it kind of threw me off and the interview was kind of awkward at times.  But, I totally thought that I pulled through and we still got along great.  She was nice, but unprepared.  Anyways, so she tells me that she will let me know by the next day.  Then we say our goodbyes and “nice to meet you” and I head out.  On my way out, she comes after me and stops me and says she forgot to get my references and grabs them from me. 

Well, it’s been over a week now and she hasn’t called me and she hasn’t called my references.  I even made a follow-up phone call but wasn’t able to get a hold of anyone, so I had to leave a message and still…nothing.  I’m sorry, but how the hell do you go from thinking that I have all this potential and getting my holidays approved and blah, blah, blah to not even having the courtesy to call me back.  Especially when they said that I would get a call either way.  Then, if you didn’t like me in the 2nd interview, why would you chase me down to get my references after I had left, and then not even call them??

I’m just really frustrated with this because the first girl talked to me like I already had the job.  Seriously, what the hell happened in this time frame that made them completely change their minds about me and not even have the decency to call me back??  They didn’t check my references so it’s not like I got a bad review.  And I wouldn’t be so mad about it if they just called me.  Even if I didn’t get it, I would be fine with that.  Don’t tell me that you will let me know either way by the very next day and then not call.  And after I’ve left a message for a follow-up, you still don’t have the courtesy to call me.  Seriously, you are in management.  This is part of your job to make these calls.  Strap on a set.

Anyways, I’m annoyed.  But obviously it wasn’t meant to be, and the job which I had my heart set on, apparently isn’t right for me.  I’m being hopeful that something better is out there for me in this same field and I’m sure it is, but right now, it feels good to bitch about it.

On to the next one…

1 Nov

Woohoo!!!  I did it.  Today is November 1 and I am officially finished Sober October.  I made it through the whole month without having one drop of liquor.  I’m so freakin’ proud of myself right now, I can’t even begin to tell you.  And, this weekend coming up will actually mark 2 months since I’ve had a drink. Hi-Five to myself.

It’s definitely been a test of will power.  There were a few times where I wanted to just break down and have a few glasses of wine.  There were birthdays throughout the month and Halloween parties this whole weekend.  But I managed to pull through and overcame the temptations.

I overcame them by overeating.  Hahaha…seriously!!!  You would have thought that not drinking would have helped me shed a few pounds.  After all, when I was drinking, that’s what I blamed my weight gain on.  I would eat healthy all week and then when the weekends came, I would drink and shove McDonalds down my throat.  Turns out, that’s not the case.

So, Sober October taught me that I need to chill on the food situation.  I totally realized that I’m an emotional eater.  When I locked myself in my house to avoid any social situations, I would eat to pass the time.  Sure I got a lot of stuff finished around the house, which feels fantastic, but I also ate cookies and pie and popcorn while I did it.

OK…NEW GOAL!!!  I’ve obviously proved that when I put my mind to something, I can do it.  Soooooo since I have exactly 45 days before I leave for Hawaii, I need to get my shit together.  I’m not expecting a miracle, but a lot can be accomplished in 45 days.  It’s safe to lose up to 2lbs per week.  This Thursday will mark 6 weeks until my trip.  6 weeks * 2lbs per week = 12lbs.  BUT, I have my birthday coming up, and Christmas, which means parties and goodies galore.  So we will minus 2 lbs off of that number to make up for the parties for the festive season.  New goal…to lose 10lbs before I leave for my Hawaii trip.

Let’s do this.

 

 

Happy Monday!!!

1 Nov

This Monday morning started off like any other Monday morning.  I was actually in a great mood for it being a Monday.  But that’s probably because I’m still on a sugar high from all of the Halloween candy I ate this weekend.  Anyways, so I walked into my little pod of 4 cubicles, where I sit with 2 other co-workers (who are pretty cool and fun to talk to), and the talks of how all our weekends went commenced.

As you all know, this past weekend was Halloween.  So our conversations were obviously about Halloween.  The one guy that sits with us says that he doesn’t like Halloween.  He has a small daughter and he isn’t very keen on the idea of kids getting candy from perfect strangers and he doesn’t see the need for any child to have that much candy.  Completely understandable, a little overprotective, but totally a valid point.

As we are talking, the socially awkward girl who hates everything and sits in the pod next to us, comes over to say good morning and join in the conversation.  Uninvited, of course.  We ask how her Halloween went and she starts going off about how much she hates Halloween because she doesn’t understand it and that it’s the stupidest day she’s ever heard of.

Ummm…WTF???  OK That’s fine, I get that not everyone likes Halloween, but what are you trying to understand about it??  The day isn’t for you to understand, it’s just a day to have fun and it’s a tradition that’s been carried over about 500 years.  If you don’t “get” it, then effing wikipedia it or google it and figure it out.  And like I said, it’s for fun.  A 3 letter word you are obviously not too familiar with since everything that comes out of your mouth is a complaint. 

So I try and argue my side saying that it’s just for fun and it’s great for kids and who cares if you don’t get it.  But she starts ranting in my face at 7:30am again about how she “JUST DOESN’T GET IT” and “WHAT’S THE POINT?”.  Like seriously, your obnoxious voice screaming about how you don’t get something, which is actually just an excuse to cover up your social awkwardness, is not what I want to hear first thing on Monday morning.  Maybe if you had a valid reason like the other guy, I wouldn’t feel the need to want to throw my coffee mug at your head.  But the fact that you “just don’t get it” isn’t a good enough reason for me.  Now go back to your desk and get back to your busy day of creeping on Facebook and shopping online at Abercrombie and Fitch, and get the hell out of my face.

Alright, I know it’s not a big deal and everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but you know when you have that ONE person in your office that you CAN’T STAND, so hearing any opinion that they have on anything, whether you agree or not, is like having your nails ripped off one by one.  Well, this chick is mine.

Have a great Monday everyone!!!